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Dear Bob:

Yes, there is an answer, and a

simple one. Dignity is a gay Catholic group that meets for Mass officiated by a bonafide volunteer priest. It is the answer for those who wish to remain

Catholic while coping with their particular lifestyle. Dignity is a fine group of concerned and friendly people. Call them at 7910942. Or write: DignityCleveland, P.O. Box 18479. Cleveland, Ohio 44118

Dear Tom:

As an active gay, in my late teens, I'm wondering: isn't it true that gays have less chance of catching VD than heteros? Dear Jerry:

Jerru F.

If you believe that one. you are

probably an excellent candidate for some Florida swampland. Gays are just as susceptible to VD and diseases such as hepatitis as their hetero brothers. The recently-published "Homosexualities" a study by the Institute of Sex Research founded by Alfred C. Kinsey leaves no doubt. If this is your 'round about way of saying you think you have VD.. then get thee to a free clinic, and fast.

Dear Tom:

I'm a gay woman in my early 20's, and have wondered if it would be wise to tell my physician that I'm gay. I was on the verge once, then chickened out. What do you think? Should I just

forget it, or give it a try?

Dear Ellen:

Ellen S.

I wish I could say go ahead and tell your physician, but the

answer is NO. Most physicians have no idea how to relate to gay patients, and some are actively hostile. If you don't know a gay

physician, then call Gay Hotline, 621-3380, and ask for a referral. Despite all their long years of medical schooling, most doctors are poorly equipped to cope with gay patients. If you're a doctor reading this, and want to learn how to deal with gay patients. then get a copy of "Society and the Healthy Homosexual" by Dr. George Weinberg... recently in

paperback. Dear Tom:

Mark me down with the Inever-thought-l'd-be-writing

group. Yesterday, as I was going through my husband's pockets cleaners. I got the shock of my before sending some suits to the life. Carefully folded in a suit pocket was a letter from a mutual acquaintance, a 30-year-old friend, leaving no doubt about his relationship with my husband. I thought our marriage was a good one, and my husband is well known in the community. Disclosure would ruin all of us. What should I do about all this? Keep quiet and remain the dutiful wife? Confront him? What?

Confused wife

Dear Confused wife: Yours is not a new story, nor an easy one to answer. There is a

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female patrons. Like other bars I've frequented, the restroom at

and frustration has reached a Traxx is cramped with only two breaking point. I realize the stalls and one sink. Naturally, the commonalities of the gay strugmirror hangs above the sink and gles involving both women and inconveniences the woman anxmen in that we both have the ious to wash her hands without same oppressors who work to disturbing the woman applying divide gay people (and all people make up or combing her hair. of the world) with their classist. This set up was familiar so I was racist, and sexist lies, In viewing not particularly annoyed. What "gay" life in Cleveland, one can did annoy me was the fact that see a perfect clone of current neither stall contained a roll of society. It is not by imitating our toilet paper. oppressors that we will win our liberation.

Dear Editor:

Susan bat-Tzeporah Cleveland, Ohio

I have never found using restrooms in bars to be especially noteworthy. Most johns are cramped, dingy and dark. Wanting to wash my hands. I often find myself inconveniencing the lady who is using the mirror above the sink. Or I find myself being bumped by a stall door as it swings open. At such times it has occurred to me that this neglect of restroom amenities represented insensitivity on the part of bar owners. Moreover, it did not serve the best interests (economic, of course) of these businessmen: Inhospitable johns might discourage some patrons from drinking since sooner or later alcoholic consumption leads to water.elimination

Recently an evening at Traxx's aroused my long simmering ire. Two Traxx employees illustrate the callousness of barkeepers when it comes to the needs of

The first employee (male) I located smiled indulgently and handed me a paper cocktail napkin. When I objected, he replied that 1. that was all he had to offer. 2. that supplying the restroom Iwas not his job, and 3. that I should seek a bartender for assistance. I was embarassed about approaching the harried bartender..Embarrassment quickly changed to anger when this man told me that Traxx didn't supply toilet paper because "the women only stuff up the toilets." He offered me several cocktail napkins but would not give me enough to leave behind for unwary women who made the mistake of using the facilities before looking for paper.

It seems to me that women have had plenty of experience using toilet paper and flushing toilets. It seems to me that women can be trusted with rolls of toilet paper. It seems to me that the management of Traxx could have compassion for and sensitivity to the needs of its female patrons. Come on Traxx. give us a roll for our money!

• Sincerely. Barbara Lee

possible thought: Your husband may have left the letter for you to find, as an easy way to open the door of discussion. Maybe it would be wise to quietly confront

him with the evidence. Does he have a reasonable explanation? Offer to hear it. Is this a phase he is going through? No. Before you

discuss it with him, get a copy of "Straight Answers About Homosexuality for Straight Readers." by David Loovis. It will better

Ohio

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poll list is then compared with your signature on the registration card. If the signature com-

pares to the satisfaction of precinct officials, you are then allowed to vote.

Whether voting or marking devices or paper ballots are used detailed instructions are provided.

If you soil, tear or erroneously mark a ballot, you may return it to the precinct officials and another ballot will be given to you. (You should make a point of concealing any marks you may have made on it.)

Those who are physically unable to mark ballots may be assisted in the voting booth by a relative. If no relative is available. two judges of elections of opposite political parties may enter the voting booth to assist the voter. These judges are not allowed to disclose any information about how the voter voted.

You may be assisted by anyone of your own choosing if you are blind or illiterate.

prepare you for that which must be faced. There is no place for hysteria in this situation; try to be calm.. About disclosure... I am certain that you're not the only

one on to his sexuality. Some people have suspicion, and gossip. Others suspect, and put it

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our of their minds because they don't want confirmation. But, in the end, nobody, is fooled.

Send questions to THE GAY LIFESTYLE, c/o HIGH GEAR, P.O. Box 6177, Cleveland, OH. 441010.

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